Sunday, November 25, 2007

when you are thinking about joining a sorority....

I was asked by Collegegirl101 about what you should do when you are thinking about joining a sorority. here goes:

First and foremost when you are thinking about joining a sorority is DO YOUR HOMEWORK! seriously. just look them up online and see what they offer (values, philanthropies, social events, what they say about academics) that way you already have a good idea about who will be a good fit for you.

Then, check and see what are the standards YOU have to meet before you can be eligible to join. do you have to have a specific GPA? Hours of documented community service? letters of recommendation? its no good to get your heart set on a specific sorority and then discover that you can't even go though recruitment.

Third, if you have to fill out paperwork, then make sure it is legible and completed ON TIME! or even before! if they ask you to tell them about your hobbies, please don't leave it blank! don't leave anything blank! this is your sorority's first look at you, and you want to look good!

In a sense, joining a sorority is a competition. you want to look good, but be yourself at the same time. make yourself memorable. ask questions, even if you feel like you are repeating yourself! it shows interest and makes us feel like you care about what we have to offer you!

most of the time we are just as nervous as you when recruitment starts. we have to choose the girls who most represent what we stand for, and you have to choose the sorority that represents what you stand for!

also, and i cannot stress this enough, do NOT choose a sorority just because your best friend forever wants to go there! some girls don't understand that they can and will still be friends even if they aren't pledge sisters!

check on the school hazing policy. i'm serious. there should be one that states that no hazing is allowed. ask the girls what their chapter's take on hazing it. their immediate answer, no hesitations, should be that they do not do it. (and if they even do, and you are hurt/bothered/uncomfortable from it go to the school, even the police. we know better than to haze, but some continue to do so).

time for the mushy stuff. my sorority means everything to me. i love it. they allow me to put my academics first in a group of girls that will support me through hard times, and be understanding that "no, i can't go to the frat house and drink, i have a test". they are people that i can count on to jump start my car at 3 in the morning, to watch movies with, to have coffee together in our kitchen. they are people who will understand if i missed class and will let me copy their notes. they are wonderful and i knew from the first day of recruitment that there was no where else i wanted to be. and i got what i wanted!

Sunday, October 7, 2007

postsecret randomness

the coolest thing ever!

random but awesome.
i love love love postsecret!

Saturday, October 6, 2007

So take, take everything, and leave me scrambling

so, lets continue our talk about my bff.
since the last post she has missed her period.
yes, the thing dreaded by women everywhere.
so she (finally) peed on the stick and it was negative. but where's the period? seriously, this blows because she feels like she cant do anything until it comes. which sucks. balls. big ones.
so the douchebag ex is the one who did this (if she is preggers). apparently the idiot doesn't know how to put on a condom. and she doesn't know to check and see if he's got his package all wrapped up.
now, the problem i had with all this crap isn't the fact that if she was/is pregnant, or that she would be keeping the baby, its the fact that she believe that Ex is the type of guy who would stand by her.

which is BS.

Last night I went to hang out with J, watch a movie, chill. we ended up getting starbucks and watching Knocked Up with 2 of his brothers. needless to say, the movie freaked me out. true, it was pretty damn funny, but the whole time i was thinking about bff and what the f--k we were gonna go if she was pregnant.
J noticed that i wasn't really into the movie and asked what was wrong (he knows about bff and the Ex) and offered to kick the guys out and stop the movie. i told him no, that i was gonna go into the hall and cry, and at that point he put his arms around me and told me that he wasn't going to let go if i was going to go cry without him there. sweet, yes, but i needed to be away from penis's (peni? meh, whatever) at the moment.

moving on... blah blah, took a sister to the hospital today, she literally stopped breathing. she had managed to call my Big Sister and tell her that she was really sick. I got the phone call to go to her dorm and check on her. grabbed bff and ran over there, and i wish we had gotten there sooner. she could barely stand, or breathe. we got her to put some shorts on (she was in her pjs) and took her to the ER. Called her mom, who was very calm about the whole thing, and her family came straight away. turns out she was a horrifically high fever and that brought on the breathing problems. her dad was very polite but basically told us that we weren't needed at the hospital anymore and to just go on home. but we called her mom about an hour later to check on her and she's ok, went home tonight with the parentals and will probably be back here on Sunday.

J had to have some lung/heart tests done today, which was great since he was smoking all yesterday, the bugger lol. now he's out with his very bad influence cousin (who is pretty cute but is basically an alcoholic) at a Hooka bar. silly boys. *muah* they usually make life interesting.

Yes, i know, it's friday night and I am sitting down, sober, writing. but hey! i had a big scare today! plus i have about a bazillion midterms in the next 2 weeks that i need to study for, so that's what i've been doing.


my posts are a very random collection of whatever the hell has been going on. wow. lol

Tuesday, October 2, 2007

this is what J looks like... no seriously.


yup, just like this from behind but add a huge tat on the right shoulder.

yes, the guy i'm seeing is Hawt. like, woah!

For All Of This, I'm Better Off Without You. Do You Regret All Your Loneliness?

i know it's been nearly a month since i've last posted, but there's a good reason, i swear it!

my motherboard on my computer died. a horrible death. got that fixed, then the power supply needed to be replaced. did that. found out the harddrive had a problem. so off it went to a Sister's dad to be looked at. needless to say, i am getting a laptop pretty soon so i won't have to deal with this crap anymore. lol

new stuff in Sorority life:
1) my bff got screwed over by a boy. litereally. he fucked her then told everyone. now she is still talking to him, helping him out with his papers, being nice to him. yup. i'm basically like WTF!!!!!?!?!?! if a boy did that to me, then he'd be dead to me. no calling, no txting, no meeting up at parties, no helping him. but no. she "really really likes him" so no matter what he says or does, its going to be fine since he's "so sweet and kind and funny".
wow. cause i thought he was a douche bag because he took her virginity and then told his entire frat about it.
then i get yelled at for "being mean" to him. what? like i'm supposed to be nice? what for? he was a dick! if she's not going to stand up for herself then someone needs to do it! i finally told her that she could choose how i acted toward him. either A) i could fake nice-ness to him or B) i could pretend that he didn't even exist. but that she has no right to tell me i'm being mean.
i hate to say this but its girls like my sister who give us all a bad name. lets a guy fuck her over (lol) and takes it. no wonder guys treat us like shit, we act like its ok!
she claims that shes been in bad relationships before and always gets screwed over, but personally, the only person i see screwing her over right now is herself! seriously, act like a woman who values herself and tell him to shove it all up his ass. no more helping with papers, no more going to parties because he will be there, no more txting him back. nothing. zip. nada.

ok... i will probably rant more about that later, she's really pissed me off.

2) i have a new boy, let's call him J. yes yes, i know! but he's pretty great actually. he's sweet, calls me all the time, txts me to tell me i am pretty and he misses me, makes me mudslides when i'm feeling down, brings me coffee when i'm up all night studying (last night lol!), holds my clothes when i go shopping, takes me on walks. he's pretty awesome. (and he also doesn't understand why my bff lets this boy walk all over her.... he thinks its stupid).
we've had a few rough spots, i hooked up with his frat brother and good friend about 10 months ago (practically a lifetime in Greek life) and the brother won't leave it alone! it was funny at first but then it was kinda awkward. i told him to stop and boy did to. it was nice to have the guy i like stand up for me and back me up. apparently the brother also had told J that if he breaks my heart, he'll beat J up. which on one hand is nice and protective of brother, but on the other hand, i really don't need that.
then, while he was drunk he told me that J (my boy) is really in love me with, likes me a lot, but needs to fuck me and kick me to the curb. I asked J about this, who got pissed off. people need to stay out of our business. we like each other. we aren't fucking around. we are talking and taking it slow. neither of us wants to rush into anything right now. what's so wrong with taking it slow? everybody ends up happier, there's more hanging out, and not everything revolves around getting ass! My sibling needs to realize this too! she's always asking about him and me to which i reply "well, that's between J and me so...." and i leave it at that. no bitch, i'm not gonna tell you so you can go and tell the whole Greek community!
oh well. its crazy. whatever.
we also got Littles last week. needless to say, guess what! i did NOT get one. I am a little ticked over this as well. my Sibling (the one all up in my business) didn't give me one. which blows. we had 15 Bigs and 16 Littles. 5Bigs didn't get a little. that means that girls had to take Twins, which we usually use only as a last resort! plus, one of my sisters who is graduating in December got a Little! which is so unfair i can't even being to tell you! Plus when the Big leaves, the Little will be without any family at all in the Sorority! whatever, if i don't get a little next semester, i'm never taking one. too damn bad.
i think this is about it for all that has happened lately. i'm sure there is more but i don't think it's really that important, oh well. more to come later! stay tuned!

Wednesday, September 5, 2007

It's Funny to Me How You've Turned Into Such A Joke

Sorry for no post yesterday, I was taking a personal day to "wallow" in misery over being single again (confirmed by Facebook, so it must be true!) before I resumed being my normal self.

Ok, So. Parties this weekend.
A few of my sisters and I went out on Thursday for drinks. Then I went out with the Douchebag (story for another time). Apparently, while I was gone, my best friend kept getting hit on by a rather unsavory guy. She would continually turn to someone else to help keep her safe from these unwanted advances, haha! The poor guy just didn't understand what was happening to him.
Friday Night was the first night the Frats could drink again, since Rush would officially be over. These are classed 601 parties, since they happen the minute after the Pledges sign their bids. We went to the PK house, where my three friends and I shared a bottle of Malibu. I then proceeded to dance with my ex-little brother and meet a different sorority girl who has the same name as me! we were both thrilled with this discovery. thrilled and drunk.
then the football team showed up, demanding to be let into the PK party. A fight ensued, during which my ex-little brother put himself between me and the fight, for which I'm very grateful. I got left at the party with my Big, but then we in turn left to go to a KS house for a house party. Showed up there, accidentally slammed my best friend into a wall when I went to hug her. Had a bunch more to drink. Tripped over a tiny bush in the front yard. I went home, where I threw up for about 3 hours then passed out.
While I was doing this, my sisters went back to the PK house, when the football players returned with guns. luckily, my sorority is very good friends with the PKs so they got the girls out while the cops were called.
Apparently, our entire house had gone out to party. We all finally managed to drag ourselves out of bed around 3 on Saturday, all of us hungover. I went to dinner with my best friend and her parents, then came home to watch movies and take it easy.
Sunday night, a sister had a house warming party, I stayed for about 10 minutes then decided that I would either start drinking or hurl again, so I left and went to bed. My girls had a great time, but I can't say I'm sorry I missed it.

It was a good weekend. Now, we are planning on going out next weekend, and I must decide if this is something that I really want to do. I'm tempted to go but I'm also not exactly sure how much money I have to go party on and/or how my school work I'm going to have stacked up on me (since I'm pretty much a lazy bum for the rest of the week). lol, we'll see. I'll write tomorrow about the Cuddle-buddy (my ex-little brother), the Douchebag Ex (who ex-little brother swears left and right is gay as a maypole, but i think this just might be to make me feel better, but it works) and the crazy roommate who has finally put in an appearance and thinks that I'm mad at her for some unknown reason. Should be interesting.... *smirks*

Monday, September 3, 2007

Date: September 3, 2007

I know that today I said that I would write about the partying that went on this weekend, but something came up.

My boyfriend wants us to go back to the way we were last semester, which was, being boyfriend-girlfriend but without the use of formal titles. whatever.

So needless to say, I'm a little bit pissed, a whole lot confused, and generally unhappy with the world.
I'm glad we're not together because we were having all sorts of problems and such (more like he was being a major douche and I was being an idiot for putting up with it) so it's a good thing but just creates a new set of problems (are we fuck-buddies, exclusively dating, just friends, can we see other people, what?) and I'm just trying to deal with it.

Tomorrow I'll write about the parties and about Mr. Douchebag Boyfriend. YAY!

I know, try to act thrilled as well....

" Don't tell me that it's over
I'm not used to this temptation!"

Sunday, September 2, 2007

Date: September 2, 2007

Today, I believe that I shall discuss my roommate and her... boyfriend.
Now, my roommate is a sweet girl, one of my best friends actually. Kind, caring, and just a little too wrapped up in her boyfriend's life for my tastes.
Her boyfriend once dated a member of another sorority. Liked her enough that he fell in love with her.
Is still in love with her.
Now my roomie and her boyfriend are very happy together. Most of the time. He has this very annoying habit of sometimes telling her that he still loves his ex, hates her friends, hates her, hates her Sorority. And she puts up with it.
Now to me, this is a very telling statement to a person's character; how much bullshit they will put up with to have someone in their life.
Last semester, at a party, her boyfriend got so drunk that he had to be restrained by his brothers, then dragged off to his room where he proceeded to put his fist through a window. Later that night, he got into my face, yelling at me that I hated him and I was trying to turn his girlfriend against him. My date got between him and me so that I could walk away. It was an interesting night, punctuated by me telling my friend and roommate that he would have to apologize to me when we were both sober, no exceptions.
We got back to school about two weeks ago, and her boyfriend had no returned yet. So she spent the time with me, and our other two close friends, hanging out, playing around, getting ready for another semester of parties, school, and our Sorority life. As soon as the "dreaded" boyfriend hit town, she was gone, never home unless she had to be, always spending every free moment with him. Now he has a job, and she is forced to stay at home with us until he is off.
We have gotten a little tired of this game, her dear close friends and I. So we've done something about it, in a sense. Now, when she leaves to go to him, we call her a bit after she's gone and tell her our plans and invite her, already knowing that she'll say "no" to us. Or we let her ask us what we are up to and reply with a "I can't talk right now, I'm doing ____. I'll call you later".
Needless to say, after this weekend, she's been very quiet around us. Now I am sad about that on one hand, but on the other, please! She's never around and when she does ask us about what we've done, she wants the whole story, as if she had been there all along. We try not to use the "oh, I guess you had to be there" line, but sometimes.... hoo boy, do I wanna! But we try, as best we can, to keep her in the loop, to let her know what's going on, and to help her understand that by being with her boyfriend all the time, she misses out on us.

Tomorrow's post will be about the partying that went on this weekend. I just had to get this story out before continuing on with my life..

Saturday, September 1, 2007

Date: September 1, 2007

I've toyed around with this idea for quite some time now and have decided that it really is in my best interest to have a record of the goings on in my Sorority.
Now, I won't (hopefully) ever give away the name of my Sorority or where I attend college, but I feel that the need to tell someone who isn't heavily involved in Greek Life my story about my/my sisters adventures, is just too great to ignore.
There will be drama, fights, drinking, sex, boyfriends, girlfriends, bitching, moaning, crying, laughing and many other aspects of life recorded here. But I will never reveal the secrets of this Sorority or intentionally give anyone reason to be upset with what I write down. Yes, naturally, most of this will be from my point of view and may not exactly always be a "fair and balanced" report on what has happened in my life and to my Sisters, but it will be the truth as I see it.

Should be interesting, eh?